Divorce rates are still rising in SA today, in fact, according to Stats SA, 4/10 marriages end in divorce within the first 10 years. I’ve seen it on my Facebook timeline, a whole heap of those ‘IG perfect couples’ are calling it quits, getting a divorce and there are usually a couple of kids in tow too.
If you’re planning to get a divorce – as in you’ve explored all options and this is definitely the route you’re taking. Then my personal advice is to get a makeup artist to come and do a face beat, hire a photographer for a photoshoot as you’ll need the confidence boost (and some headshots for Tinder too) and start organising your divorce party.
Although, here is some advice from Capital Legacy on how divorce can affect their Will.
This year, 1/5 married South Africans will make the decision to start afresh and get a divorce. If this is you and you are starting to put your life back together after a relationship split, do not get distracted from updating your Will to reflect your new status.
Update your Will within three months or you may as well still be married to your ex
The emotional roller-coaster of divorce can take its toll. The South African courts understand it takes time to get over a divorce, which is why the legal system gives you three months to update your Will after you officially get divorced. If you pass away during this time, your ex may not have a claim on your estate. But if three months lapses without you having updated your will, the courts will consider the wishes of the original Will, if your ex was named, they will still benefit. “That’s problematic if you don’t want your house, your car or your favourite piece of family jewellery to go to your ex,” says CEO of Capital Legacy Alex Simeonides. “Rather review your Will to make sure it reflects the changes in your personal life.”
Your Will should reflect your new wishes
It’s hard to believe that you can feel so differently about the person you once shared your life with. Reaching a divorce agreement through the courts can be a difficult process that determines how your assets will be divided as well as child custody and visitation arrangements and whether either spouse pays alimony or financial support to the other. While your Will can’t change a divorce settlement agreement, it can ensure the orderly management of your wealth when you aren’t around to exercise personal control. “For instance, your ex-spouse could still have a claim on your children’s inheritance but with a proper estate plan, you can account for the cost of maintenance obligations and protect your children’s inheritance through a Trust,” adds Simeonides. “This can be accommodated through reviewing and updating your Will.”
Right now, you may just want to put the past behind you and move on with your life. Should you decide to remarry, you’ll need to update your Will to make sure your new family, as well as your children from a former marriage, are taken care of should you pass away. “Failing to update your Will after a divorce may mean that your former spouse gets everything once you’ve passed on, to the disadvantage of your new partner,” explains Simeonides. “You can make special bequests in your updated Will to meet your financial responsibilities to your former spouse, without impacting your new family.” That will give you the space to move forward, positively.
The process of updating and reviewing your Will need not be time-consuming, complex or costly and should be done every time you have a life-changing event – a birth, marriage, purchase or sale of a property and of course, divorce. Updating it every 3-5 years is essential to ensure your Will remains current and reflects your wishes and financial circumstances. Put that on your 2020 To-Do List as you embrace all the new year has to offer.